As the holidays quickly approach us, I wanted to take a few extra moments to acknowledge all of the wonderful things I have to be grateful for this past year. Needless to say, these past 11 months have been very busy for me. You see, I was very lucky to have met a man who I fell deeply in love with. Along the way we got engaged, I got a new job, and eventually we moved into a new house together. Lots of steps. Lots of stress. But lots of wonderful memories were made along the way.
This year has also been a huge year of growth for me. I have started to fully appreciate and embrace the wonderful relationships I have in my life. I think as we get older our relationships in general change, but the one’s with our parents especially change. (At least they have for me.) We seem to gain a sense of understanding of what they have been dealing with after all of these years. Maybe we finally start to realize that just like us, they are also human. Although, I never seem to notice that my parents have aged. I still see the same young, beautiful people (with flecks of gray in their hair, don’the tell mom) that they were when I was growing up. I don’t know what I will do when the day comes that I can’t pick up the phone on my way home from work to discuss the days events with my parents. Those phone calls that have no specific reason other than I just want to hear your voice are something to truly be cherished. Not everyone has that, and one of these days, unfortunately, I won’t either.
My relationship with my daughter has also gone through some changes. She is no longer living full-time in my house. While this transition was extremely hard at first, thankfully, there is a woman on the other side that makes me happy she is there to help take care of my child and to help give her the love that she needs and deserves. The thought of another woman kissing my child goodnight and telling her that she loves her would have sent me over the edge a few years ago. I’m not sure what shifted in the universe to make me more open-minded to this situation, but whatever it was, I am grateful for it. You see, I am actually lucky because my amazing daughter just has one more person in this world to provide care and support to her.
Friendships have come and gone this year. Which is to be expected. But of course, the one’s that really matter have stuck around. While I can count the number of my “true” friends on one hand, I find myself very lucky to actually consider them as family. Sometimes the details aren’t in the quantity, but the quality.
Thanksgiving is still a few weeks away, but this year I am ready to make new memories and form new traditions. While it is hard to say goodbye to some of the old, there is solace in knowing that this is only the beginning of something grand.